This week in class we were talking about sexual intimacy inside of marriage. Now having not been married myself I don't have a lot of experience in this field however I do feel that it is very important to discuss in a frank manor. Something that I have a very strong opinion on is the stance that although intimacy is sanctioned for marriage and is something that is so powerful and is for the creation of life I feel it is so much more than that.
I have a very I respect for sexual relations because it is so important and vital for our species to survive, because obviously it allows us to procreate. This is something so sacred and so many people use as a mood of lust the reason God made is was so that we were allowed to bring other spirits into this world and I believe that most of the time (mostly outside the church) it is wildly misused. Going back to my previous statement however I don't just believe it is used only for procreation. Don't get me wrong I'm not contradicting myself saying that and then saying before that people misuse it with lust, let me explain.
Sex biologically is used for procreation, so that we can bring spirits into this world but it has another purpose, there is a reason sex feels good an allows us to feel closer to the people that we have it with. While used inside of marriage I wholeheartedly believe that it brings us so much closer to our spouse. That is as vulnerable as you can get as a human being, completely exposing yourself to another person is beyond intimate. When you do that you give that person the ultimate power to mock, provoke, and utterly crush your spirit. So not only is it intimate because you are both giving each other power but that is as close as you can be to another person. Physically you can not be any closer than you are when you are having intercourse with another person. Not only that but emotionally and spiritually your spirits completely connect when you are doing that, because it is a sacred things. Our spirits flourish in the light and shrink in the dark, sex is not dirty or nasty it is light giving when used in the right way.
I took a class last semester and the teacher gave us some advice he said and I'll paraphrase he said that when we need to have a frank discussion or are stressed about something that we should have sex with our spouse. He said that it reunites you and reminds you that you love this person and that nothing is more important than them and everything seems so much easier to talk about because of it. I agree and feel that it stands for my point that sex is more that lust and although it is sanctified it is more that just procreation it is a means to where we can return to a state of love and life with our spouse and gives us a more positive look in life.
Some may say that they agree and that sex does bring them closer together and why should they wait till marriage if they love that person? Not only does my religion say to wait until marriage but I personally believe so. The reason we instinctually have sex is to have children, and children according the "Proclamation that the Family" and personal beliefs children have the right to be born inside the bonds of marriage. Children deserve to be able to be born under people who are legally committed to each other. I dont care how long people have been dating or how committed they think they are you can easily break up with someone. And you could argue that people get divorced all the time, and they do but children deserve to give that fitting chance. Also your spirit deserves to have that close connection with someone who will be around in 15 years. That act connects you so deeply to a person your very souls connect and then ripping that away to try and have that with someone else and then another person and another it terrible to think about.
So keep sexual intimacy in the bonds of marriage because you deserve to feel that love with one person, to feel that intimacy and closeness with them, not only to have children but to respect Gods plan.
