Now when I say "boundaries" I don't mean how much your mother-in-law or sibling should be snooping in your business. I mean the boundaries in our subsystems within our own families. In each family there is a subsystem (husband and wife, brother sister ect) and with that relationship there are open boundaries, closed boundaries, and the kind of boundary where you don't know where the boundary is haha. Its just like when a husband and wife pull away from each other there is a rigid boundary, there isn't much communication. The one that we all strive for is an open boundary, people know where the line is but there is still nice information flowing between you. This got me thinking about my own family and our relationships with each other. Fore the most part I think my family is pretty healthy. My older brother just left on a mission yesterday, and I can already tell that it is having a big impact on my mom, she is much more sweet talking and involved with what I say. I dont know if it just because its so soon but I know she is going to have a tough time with him gone. I hope however that she clings to my father and not her children because that might it turn drive him away.
It was extremely interesting learn about the "triangle" that when two people move closer together the third person pulls away or opposite to that one person may pull away bringing the two other people close together. The trick is, is to keep an open relationship by communication and keeping everyone close. There was a quote from class today that I loved...
"Having a man and woman in an equal relationship is not natural-its DIVINE"
I loved that because its true, its not in our nature to be in an equal relationship with the opposite sex (just look at the animal kingdom!) however it is a Godly thing. And isnt that what most Godly things do? They make us go against our natural man. I thought it was a very good insight!
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